When it comes to growth, no matter what area you are looking to grow in there are a handful of skills and abilities you need to pursue and possess. We all know that in order to grow you have to work hard, persevere, take risks, yadda yadda yadda. These attributes are certainly a must, no doubt about it. When it comes to growth, there is one more ability we must have that we tend to let others control. I consider this ability to be non-negotiable.
It is probably safe to say on your journey there have been people along the way who have told you, “You won’t be able to do that”. Maybe you heard, “Why would you even try that” or “Your wrong! There is no way you will succeed at that”. After a while of hearing this, we as humans naturally tend to start believing that we really can’t do it or we really are wrong. It’s at that moment, we allow others to control us.
As Ralph Waldo Emerson said, “Whatever course you decide upon, there will always be someone to tell you that you are wrong”. This is such a true statement. The funny thing is when someone tells you your wrong or you can’t do something the opposite is often true. They actually believe you’re right or you can do it. They are either jealous, envious, and/or trying to hold you back so they don’t have to watch you grow and succeed why they stay stagnant.
For some of us, before we even tell others what we want to do or what we are thinking, we tell ourselves we won’t be able to do it. You probably said to yourself at one time or another – “There is no way I can do that.” It’s human nature to second guess ourselves and think about all the negatives when we are considering doing something new, big, or radical. This is especially true when it involves chasing a dream or an ambitious goal.
By now you are probably thinking, where are you going with this Andy? Well, here it is – in order for you to grow you must not only be able to do what others believe you cannot, but you MUST be able to do what YOU believe you cannot do. This is the ability that is non-negotiable.
I will be the first to admit, it’s hard to not listen to other people’s words and criticism and second guess our self-belief. However, remember what Les Brown said, “Someone’s opinion of you does not have to become your reality”. This includes the negative opinion we have about ourselves.
I can fully attest to this. In 2015, I was fresh out of college with a small circle and no business experience when I decided to start my nonprofit, The Complete Player (TCP) Charity. I couldn’t tell you how many people told me I was crazy! They told me there was no way I could do it. To be honest, I didn’t believe it either, but I put my head down and just did it. Now just three short years in, TCP Charity has received $10,000 from our local government and $15,000 from a Fortune Global 500 company. We have awarded 34 grants totaling over $20,000 and have impacted over 400 students through our programs.
On your road to success, you will always come to a crossroad where a major step needs to be taken. It is in those times where you need to walk in faith and act in full confidence. Believe in your dream and go out and do what you believe you cannot do. The confidence you will gain the first time you do something you believed you could not, will be the trampoline that will catapult you to new heights.